7 ways to cheer up a friend, be a better friend

7 Ways to Cheer Up a Girlfriend | Be a Better Friend

Don’t you love when your friends are there for you? Be a better friend …

7 ways to cheer up a friend, be a better friendWe all have great days when we want to shout happiness from a rooftop somewhere. We all have days that are neither wonderful nor terrible.  Sometimes we have days that are Just AwfulAs bad as it is when we have bad days, it is almost worse when a good friend has a bad day.  We feel for them and want to help—but often we don’t know what to do or how to help her.

There are all different kinds of days we’d rather not repeat.  Bad days range from the bad-hair-nail-chipped-spilled-the-coffee days to days when we get profoundly bad, unchangeable news.  How you help your BFF is going depend on the kind of “bad” day she’s having and on her personality (and yours).  Here are Seven Ways for cheering up a girlfriend on a bad day.

Pick up the phone

Sometimes the simplest things can be the hardest. There are days when the phone feels like it weighs a thousand pounds.  Usually it’s because we just don’t know what to say in the face of our friends troubles.  Remember—this isn’t a stranger, this is your friend. Pick up the phone and call.  I often find it useful to check with my friend to see what role she needs from me—is my job to help solve problems, to distract her and cheer her up, or just to listen.

Send a message

Tweet, text, email, Facebook message—how you contact your friend doesn’t matter.  What’s important is that you find a way to let her know you are thinking of her and sending her a virtual hug.

Or, rather than just send a message, why not send a link to a song?  Choose a song that brings back happy memories for the two of you.  Or send a song that makes people happy. (I have a friend who says it’s impossible to be sad when you listen to a Sousa march.)

Drop by to visit

Seeing a friendly face can sometimes make all the difference.  Stop by to show your friend that there are still smiles in the world.  Even if you only have five minutes (perhaps especially if you only have five minutes), that extra effort of showing up in person can make a huge impact.

Help her take action

Sometimes we are so stuck in a bad day that even breathing seems practically impossible. Often the best role you can play is to help your friend find a way to move through the rest of the day by taking action. Small steps lead to big results.  So if your friend is overwhelmed by the idea of cleaning her entire home by the weekend, try to focus her on at least getting one room finished by the end of the day.

Take some of the burden

Lending a hand can be huge gift of friendship. Is your friend freaking out about picking up food and flowers on opposite sides of town at the same time? Why not offer to pick up the flowers for her. If she’s stressed about making and wrapping cookies for an event, why not spend some time in her kitchen helping and visiting.

Dance!

Crank up the tunes, grab your friend, and start dancing. It’s amazing how your mood can improve when you move.  So ‘dance it out’ just like the gals on Grey’s Anatomy.

Just listen

Often the best thing we can do for a friend is simply be there to listen.  Listen while she shares her day, listen as she works through her struggles, listen as she laments the twists and turns she’s facing.   Leave the judgment, leave the solutions, and just listen with empathy and friendship.

How do YOU help friends who are having a tough day, girlfriend?

Judi is our Girlfriendology Chief of Brilliant Ideas, blogger at DearKidLoveMom.com and fab mom to Rachel who helped her come up with these great ways to cheer up a friend.

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Confessions of a Sucky Friend – How to be a better friend, part xvixiii

friendship, friends, women, girlfriends“The best way to have a friend, is to be one.”

I’m not saying I’m not there for my friends. I SO hope I am. But sometimes I’m not the great friend that I would like to be. Sometimes I drop the ball … forget a birthday, don’t call, don’t text back, don’t say the things I should say. Sometimes I’m not the friend I’d like to be. Sometimes I fall short in the friendship ‘stack.’

And, as the founder of Girlfriendology, I ‘should’ be the BEST of Friends, right?

But sometimes I’m like you – I struggle with the words, the effort, the time that allows me to be there for my friends. Sometimes work, people, life gets in the way of showing my friends the time and attention they deserve.

Girlfriend … you, like me, need to give ourselves a little grace. Hopefully our girlfriends do. Hopefully our BFFs know what it is like, why we forget to ask about their mom or annual review, why we aren’t there when we should be like when they’ve had a bad day or an argument with someone important. We need to forgive each other like we’d like to be forgiven.

Golden rule. Grace. Love. The power of Friendship.

Today … start over. Be the friend you would love to have. Be a little better every day. Just a little. It’s okay. We’ve all had those days – where we weren’t as good of girlfriends as we wish we would have been. Let’s forgive ourselves and each other.

Life is way too short to not be a better friend. Thanks girlfriends for your love, forgiveness and, most of all, your friendship.

Be a better friend. You’ll be glad you did.

poison ivy happiness

The Poison Ivy of our Happiness | Elements of Happiness

Thanksgiving quote let us be gratefulLet’s be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. – Marcel Proust

Part of being a good friend, is wanting our friends to be HAPPY – and doing what we can to encourage, inspire and assist them.

By now you know I recently moved into a new house. So this is my first spring to discover and experience all the flora and fauna. I have a “back 40” thats a nice combination of green grass, ground cover extending to a wooded area. Deer regularly visit. There’s plenty of room for the dog to run and a fire pit for evenings with friends.

There’s a lot of honeysuckle and brush growing in and there’s a clean, distinct line between lawn and the ground cover. But when I mowed the lawn I discovered my beautiful green ground cover hosted a healthy contingent of Poison Ivy.

I’ve experienced its effects before, and because of that I am even more susceptible to it. The recovery was uncomfortable but the experience taught me a valuable lesson on recognizing its leaves of three before it had a chance to play its game with me.

Such a simple metaphor for our experience. You’ve got a good life, lots of friends, a wonderful family, and a lot of good things going on. You’re happy. Then there in the fringes of you recognize some poison ivy growing. If not taken care of early and quickly it can cause you some real discomfort. Your ability to recognize the threat to your happiness is only as good as your resolve to take swift action against it.

The poison ivy in our lives comes in a variety of ways, often disguised as people or situations that seem pleasant and harmless enough, but can bring about a good deal of discomfort and distraction in seeking the happiness in our lives if we’re not being vigilant.

There will always be poison ivy in our lives, those irritant that grows just outside the lines of what makes you happy. While you may never be able to eradicate those things from your life, you have to be prepared to recognize them and rather than hoping they’ll go away on their own – which they won’t – do what it takes to control them.

poison ivy happinessFor me, it meant long pants, long sleeves, boots and gloves, some specific poison ivy eradicator and several hours of quality time in my back 40. By dealing with my poison ivy as soon as it was discovered and growing, its arrested development will give me great peace of mind when I invite the girlfriends over for cook outs and evening fires throughout the summer months.

No one ever said tending garden was just about planting the good seeds. There will always be the weeds, some just nuisance, some more threatening, to remind us that we have to work to cultivate and grow the happiness we all want in life.

Any girlfriend advice for poison ivy? The plant or those things in your life that make you unhappy? SHARE!

Have a great spring week girlfriends. And remember: leaves of three, let it be.

 

 

Spring party ideas

Seven Spring Parties for Girlfriends | Get-Together Ideas

Spring party ideasSeven Spring Parties: Fun Ways to Get Together with Girlfriends

It’s Spring! Time to dust off the winter blues, gather up your girlfriends, and celebrate the season. Here are seven great ideas for spring girlfriend get-togethers.

Pasta Party: What is better than an evening with pasta, garlic bread, and wine? Invite your girlfriends over for a spring pasta party! Whip up two different kinds of pasta, two or three light sauces featuring spring veggies (think baby zucchini and asparagus), ask friends to bring a variety of wines, and voila!

Sangria Soiree: Nothing says spring like a lazy afternoon spent with girlfriends sipping a fruity sangria. Splurge on colorful plastic goblets and a bright tablecloth to set the mood. Pretend you’re traveling together to Napa or on a cruise and enjoy a break with your BFFs!

Seed Swap: Every year I buy packets of seeds to plant and only use a portion of the seeds in each pouch. Why not share the bounty? Invite your girlfriends to bring over a packet or two (depending on the size of your gathering) of their favorite seeds. Have lots of small envelopes and a variety of permanent markers on hand. Encourage your guests to label and decorate the envelopes and share seeds and planting instructions. (Or bring over your seed starters – and share some baby plants.)

Old Fashioned Slumber Party: Remember how much fun slumber parties were when we were kids? Now is the perfect time to bring the fun back. Stock up on slumber party essentials: movies, popcorn, ice cream, nail polish, and fuzzy slippers, and plan to sleep in the next morning.

‘Tizer Teaser: Sometimes planning a dinner party can feel overwhelming. Try an evening of ‘tizers—appetizers! Set out a variety of cheeses, dish up some tasty hors d’oeuvres, and make a meal of these delectable bites.

Progressive Dinner: Can’t decide where to go for dinner? (Wherever you want. No, no, wherever you want. Really, it’s up to you.) No need to narrow down the options! Pick one spot for drinks and appetizers, another for the main course, and a third for a fabulous dessert. You can go really wild and choose a fourth for after dinner drinks, coffee, and more great girlfriend conversation.

Munch a Brunch: There is something luxurious and decadent about even the most informal of brunches. Menus can be sweet or savory or both. From bagels to eggs Benedict, you can make the recipes as simple or involved as you choose. Be sure to tell your guests what time you expect them—brunch can be pretty much any time of day!

What are your favorite ways to get together and greet spring? We’d love to hear your great ideas, girlfriend!

Thanks girlfriend Judi Cogen for sharing these spring parties for girlfriends! (We <3 Judi!

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Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be … Girlfriend Advice

PERFECT.

It’s a tough word, girlfriend. It’s something we women strive for, measure ourselves against and punish ourselves for not being. It’s a failure in how we succeed, love, earn, and even drop the ball on being a ‘perfect’ friend.

I know who I am. I am not perfect. I’m not the most beautiful woman in the world. But I’m one of them.

Mary J. Blige
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Like the fabulous (and beautiful) Mary J., we’re not perfect women or perfect moms, partners, coworkers, and rarely perfect FRIENDS.
 
Grace. Acceptance. Unconditional love of friends. People who understand you, who understand that …
 
Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational.

Hugh MackayLife isnt perfect be a better friend
 
Who here has a perfect life? Not me. But no one else does either. It doesn’t make it ‘not wonderful’ … great girlfriend advice from a woman who started with ‘big ears.’
 
Life doesn’t have to be Perfect to be WONDERFUL.
Annette Funicello
 life doesnt have to be perfect
So, in the words of the young, but wise …
 
Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.

Ariana Grande
be happy with being you
Or the incomparable B …
 
If everything was perfect, you would never learn and you would never grow.

Beyonce Knowles
if everything was perfect

And, on FRIENDSHIP, from a FRIENDS expert …

Where would you be without friends? The people to pick you up when you need lifting? We come from homes far from perfect, so you end up almost parent and sibling to your friends – your own chosen family. There’s nothing like a really loyal, dependable, good friend. Nothing.

Jennifer Aniston
 

Dependable friendSo girlfriend. Let’s give ourselves grace in not being PERFECT. Let’s just try to be a really loyal, dependable, good friend. Let’s be the kind of friend that we’d love to have. That’s perfect enough for me!

5 ways to find more time for your friends

Be a Better Friend: 5 Ways to Find more time for your Girlfriends

5 ways to find more time for your friendsDo you balance your life to make time for your girlfriends?

Or do you struggle with balancing work, life, family, friendships and life?

Girlfriends make women healthier, happier, less stressed, live longer and feel more beautiful. Those wonderful benefits of female friendship improve our quality of life and are substantial to our level of happiness. So why don’t we work to have not only a life/work balance, but to have a life/friendship balance?

Probably the most common excuse for not making time for our girlfriends is that we don’t have the time. We have kids, jobs, homes, relationships, dirty clothes, meals to prepare, dishes to do and all the wonderful other things that women do on a daily basis. We constantly juggle deadlines and budgets, try to take care of ourselves and our families, and often don’t even sleep well to be rested for another day of responsibilities and expectations.

Here’s our girlfriend advice for being a better friend and maintaining a life friendship balance:

1. Make time with your girlfriends a priority. Put it on  your calendar. Schedule time together – and don’t change  plans. Examples: Every Sunday night: call up a girlfriend and catch up on her life. Check in at least once a week or month with different female friends. Send a birthday card to all your girlfriends on their birthdays. Show your girlfriend(s) how much their friendship means to you – be the kind of friend you’d love to have!

2. Make plans with girlfriends in advance. Monthly Book Club, an upcoming concert or sports event, a trip together. Plan ahead and balance your schedule around it. (See #1!) Sometimes we have to plan far ahead to make arrangements and get on everyone’s schedule. So, plan ahead for some great times with your girlfriends!

3. Multi-task: Spend time together and ‘get stuff done!’ Run, work-out or take a yoga class together. (It will motivate you to get exercising and make it much more fun!) Volunteer together – do good for others and spend time with your favorite BFF(s). Even plan some of your ‘chores’ together – meet to go grocery shopping, go to the garden/home store together and work on home projects together, cook meals ahead of time (together, of course) then split them so you both have meals prepared.

4. Get into a routine. As we mentioned above, call your girlfriends every Sunday afternoon or evening. Plan a girlfriend’s happy hour for the last Friday of the month and book a babysitter in advance. (Then possible share the babysitter with our girlfriend’s kids!) As shared on our Facebook page, some of my girlfriends have a standing girlfriend get-together – aka: “Champagne Tuesday.” (Does that sound fun and like you’d love to hang out with these girlfriends every week?!)

5. Look out for each other. Just like you need some work / life / friendship balance, so do your girlfriends. If your friend is working too much, invite her out to dinner to spend time away from work and with you. Talk about work some but also make the conversations about fun stuff – like reality shows, shoe shopping, upcoming travel plans, etc. If your BFF is a busy, busy mom, hire a babysitter for her and surprise her with a night out with you (and the girls).

Happiness is found in balance. Balancing our time allows us to allot for our needs – working to follow a passion (and affording us the income and free time to enjoy the rest of the hours in our lives), spending time with people we love and maintaining a sane life work balance.

Build some time into your schedule for your girlfriends. It’s important to your happiness. It’s important to the balance of work and life.

Share your girlfriend advice for maintaining a life work balance – and a life friendship balance!

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true friendship

Friendship is …

true friendshipOne of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.

Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Per Wikipedia: Friendship is co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans.

There are 15 cities in the U.S. named “Friendship.”

Friendship 7, was an American spacecraft, used by John Glenn to orbit the Earth.

Dictionary.com says FRIENDSHIP is: 1. the state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person’s friendship.
2. a friendly relation or intimacy.
3. friendly feeling or disposition.

Friendship is *kinda* a BIG deal, right?! Actually … it is.

What is FRIENDSHIP to YOU? WHO is a great example of friendship? WHO makes you want to be a better friend? It makes women healthier, happier, less stressed, live longer and feel more beautiful – so Friendship is a BIG deal.

To me, a perfect friend is a combination of the amazing qualities of the beautiful women in my life. The kindness of Julie, thoughtfulness of Terri, inspiration of Cath, Loyal friendship of Barb, support of Judi, and too many others to mention, but each just as valuable to my soul and spirit.

What we control, and what really matters is what kind of friend are we to them? Do we mirror back the positive support and generous nature? Or do we miss opportunities to be the kind of friend we’d like to have?

This relationship that brings happiness to our lives, makes our days brighter and our memories more fun, that warrants quotes and cities and ships and spacecraft and festivals and bracelets to be named after it :), deserves a good effort! Life is short – right? BE A BETTER FRIEND! Here’s some good ‘ole girlfriend advice on it …

The story of women

The Story of Women (Hint: You’re in it!)

The story of womenThere is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.
Maya Angelou

About eight years ago, two girlfriends had cancer. I was scared, mad, lost, so I started a blog to put words around my feelings and my female friendships. That’s where this blog, aka: this story, began – for me. My untold story of friendship that I felt needed to be told.

Each of us has a story. Friends that contribute to the storyline, the humor, wisdom, voices. Chapters of stories, experiences, lessons, and happy and sad memories. Every women helps write the words that become voices in our heads and words on our pages.

This past weekend, I traveled. I indulged myself in a book that was instrumental in the beginning of Girlfriendology. I haven’t read it in a few years but it remains one of my favorite books of all times and inspiring when it comes to a great story about girlfriends.

QUICK synopsis: Eight women gather every Thursday night to drink wine, share their stories, and basically ‘do life’ together. One night, a glass of wine crashed as did one of the women who had ‘an untold story’ inside of her. Huddled together on the floor, they realized that this situation called for something extraordinary. Without a hesitation or plan, they leave in the night and start walking. Days and stories later, the media pick up on the ‘pilgrimage’ and the nation becomes enthralled with what they’re up to. The walk and stories continue as each woman tells her story and moves forward in her life in ways she wouldn’t have without their walk together.

I’ll leave it there so you can read the great words of author KRIS RADISH in her first novel, THE ELEGANT GATHERING OF WHITE SNOWS. It’s a beautiful book that inspired me when I was launching Girlfriendology. (And, Kris totally shocked me by agreeing to be my first podcast and live video interviews. Such a great writer and woman!)

Reading this story again, brought me back to that place eight years ago where my girlfriends were dealing with cancer, my life was different, and I began Girlfriendology as a love story about female friendship.

The beautiful thing about girlfriends, they all contribute to our stories. Their voices whisper to us when we’re uncertain of what to do or who we are. Their words give us strength and courage. Their wisdom and hope become ours.

You’re in the stories being written in each of your friends’ lives. Your friendships shape the stories your children will write and how they value friendship. Together, we’re writing the life stories that need to be told, that connect us to each other, that give our lives worth and memories.

Want to be reminded of that? Read ‘The Elegant Gathering of White Snows,” by Kris Radish. (Or other great stories she’s written!) Then share your story with a friend and listen as she reciprocates.

Thanks for being part of our story!!!

 

 

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friendship, girlfriendsFriendship … is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.

Muhammad Ali
 
I’m often asked about how you make and keep friends. I’m not necessarily the expert or best friend, but I have learned a thing or two after eight years of Girlfriendology and encouraging, observing friendships … they don’t just happen. You have to help.
 
It’s been months. A quick text. A tried attempt to get together but one of us was traveling or busy. No more spontaneous nights on the front porch, overlooking the neighbors and sharing a glass or two of wine. Do you have friends like that?
We were neighbors who became friends. We checked on each others’ home when we were out of town, ate dinners together, walked through the hidden pathways of our wonderful neighborhood, shared our lives each step of the way.
 
She was the friend I called when my life changed and the ambulance arrived. She was there when I had to get the house ready to sell and who actually delivered the news that it sold in one day. She was there to help me look for a new home and to make sure I was okay.
 
But life is busy. Flights have rerouted the friendship. Work, commitments, relationships. Things happened that kept us from spending time together. At least temporarily.
 
Tonight at dinner was finally our chance to catch up. It was awesome to share our adventures and challenges. We laughed, vented, confessed, caught up. The regular ‘stuff’ that girlfriends do when they get back together … the special girlfriends who pick up where they left off and who make the effort to keep a friendship alive.
 
Is that the secret to friendships? Maybe it is. Maybe it’s the effort of staying in touch. Of caring where the other is in their life – work, relationships, dreams. That’s what you do, right?!, when you have a friend who is worth the time to invest in a friendship that extends past the neighborhood borders and even when addresses and life change.
 
Want friends? BE A FRIEND. It’s totally up to you.
 
Who do you need to call? Make dinner plans with? Book a flight to go visit? Spend more time showing her you’re interested in her life than a simple Facebook ‘like’?
 
Life is short girlfriends. Be the kind of friend you’d like to have. Make the effort. No doubt you’ll have dinner someday with an old friend who means the world to you, and you’ll smile at the memories of sharing your lives … all because you made the effort to make and keep a friends. Enjoy friends. Life is good – with friends!

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Irish blessing

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Blessings, BFFs and New Beginnings

Happy St. Patrick’s Day girlfriend!

Irish blessingGotta love the holiday that celebrates joy and silliness! (Have you seen the fake green eyelashes, flashing shamrock earrings and silly green outfits?! Believe me, they’re out there – just check out your local Irish pub!) Also, you have to love a holiday where, for one day, we’re all the same heritage – either authentically Irish or adopted into the green clan of funny-speaking leprechauns!

My BFF Julie shared this Irish Blessing that fits into our message here on Girlfriendology:

Ar scáth a chéile a mhaireas na daoine.  — People live in one another’s shelter.

So today, while you’re ‘wearing of the green’ and possibly meeting up with friends for some green beer, or even just playing little St. Patrick’s Day tricks on your kids*, be mindful of the people in your life whose shelter you share. Think about the blessings of the day – spending time with friends, being silly, enjoying a holiday where you get to pinch each other or pretend your name starts with an O’. Be grateful for a holiday that takes a normal day and turns into a fun celebration with friends.

We love girlfriend traditions and these two are just for St. Patrick’s Day

* My girlfriend Kleta’s silly family St. Patrick’s Day tradition is to hide green food coloring under the cereal. When the milk turned magically green, she’d swear it was the elves. She still does it – even when they’re now in high school and on to her silly green tradition!

My BFF Terri’s St. Patrick’s Day tradition is to send me and some of her friends the same St. Patty’s Day joke EVERY YEAR. (And we all love it!) What’s Irish and stays out all night? (Patty O’Furniture!) (Thanks Terri!) And, yes, it could be St. Paddy’s day too :)

home happiness quote“A comfortable home is a great source of happiness.”
Sydney Smith

And one last blessing and ‘new beginning.’ A year from today I closed on a “comfortable home” for just me and the pets. It’s been a wild journey over the past couple years and I could not have made it if not for my girlfriends. I’m happy to have a home where my friends will always be welcome. A home where I’ve welcomed girlfriends and good friends for the past 12 months – and made memories with new and old friends that I will forever cherish.

Happy St. Patrick’s Day Girlfriends! Wear your greenest outfit or accessories and go enjoy some time with your girlfriends – Irish or not!

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Random acts of kindness

Celebrate & Practice Random Acts of Kindness Week (all over the world!)

Random acts of kindnessRemember the Coca-cola ad from this year’s Super Bowl? The soft drink accidentally spilled onto internet servers and suddenly all the mean social comments became ‘sweet’ and kind. (See below.)

That random act of advertising is being lived out this week as February 9-15 is designated as Random Acts of Kindness Week, aka: #RAKweek2015. The goal is to flood social media with kindness, actually random acts of kindness. Why not start with your friends, right?

Per this article on kindness … researchers have shown that generosity is contagious. Goodness spurs goodness, they found: A single act can influence dozens more.

Let’s try it out – let’s practice acts of random kindness this week (and any week) toward our friends – or even those we don’t even know.

Here’s a few ideas …

* Caffeinated Kindness – It’s very simple, yet can make someone’s day. Pay for the car behind you in the drive through lane. Make their grande with a simple gesture of generosity and kindness.

* Text or Tweet your Kindness – Long distance or local, a tweet or text can make someone’s day. Like in the Coke commercial, a short message can be powerful and something as kind as ‘there’s no one like u’ or ‘you’re beautiful’ or ‘i love u’ or any sweet tweet can make her day.

* Facebook your beautiful Face – with a dear friend and acknowledge her friendship. Share a #TBT (Throwback Thursday) of an old photo with an old friend and remind her of the good times you’ve spent together.

How will you celebrate this week of Random Acts of Kindness? How will you make your friends (and others) feel special, loved, appreciated? Try it. And may the kindness of others make your week too!

All you need is love and chocolate, quote

Celebrate Valentine’s Day – or GALentine’s Day (Just celebrate friends!)

All you need is love and chocolate, quoteAll you need is LOVE. But a little CHOCOLATE now & then doesn’t hurt.
Charles M. Schulz

It’s that week. Sometimes it’s a good week. Sometimes, not so much. To guarantee a great week, take time to recognize and celebrate the relationship that shows you love and friendship – your girlfriends!

And, if you want to make them feel REALLY special, celebrate all the special gals in your life with GALentine’s Day! (February 13th!)

Here’s some great girlfriend advice for GALentine’s Day:

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5 Valentine’s Day Inspired Girlfriend Lessons

All you need is love and chocolate, quoteAll you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt. — Charles M. Schulz

Roses are red, violets are blue, BFFs are the best, be they old or new.
 
Silly Valentine’s Poem … but it is a way of reminding us to celebrate female friends as well as this season of love and Valentine’s with these 5 Valentine’s Day Inspired Girlfriend Lessons:

1. Cards, Flowers & Gifts are good – They’re not meant just for ‘lovers.’ They don’t have to be ‘romantic’ gifts. They’re thoughtful and special and will be appreciated. So … send a friend flowers. Write her a silly or sweet card. Give a little gift that shows how much her friendship means to you.
2. Tell your BFF that you love them. It’s kinda silly, but we’re more hesitant sometimes to tell a friend that we love them. Don’t be! Friends love to hear that they’re loved – right?! (Or, if you feel a little ‘strange’ saying it, tell her how much you love her friendship – it’s the same thing.)
3. Make her feel Special – like their friendship is to you. The perfect perfume, a beautiful bangle, delivery of their favorite coffee drink to their office … through a gift or a gift of kindness, show her how special her friendship is to you. Make her feel loved!

4. Chocolate is GOOD – Not many women I know who would turn down chocolate, right? Give her a ‘sweet’ gift – a special treat that she’ll enjoy along with the thought of your friendship.
5. Be there for each other – The best thing about holidays where you celebrate each other is the reminder that we’re here for each other. Be there for her – maybe Valentine’s Day isn’t so happy or she’d like to be reminded how fun her friendship is … be thoughtful and kind and show her you love her and her friendship.

More Sweet Stuff for Girlfriends in this Valentine’s Day season

Valentines day girlfriend gifts under 25 dollars

Valentine Girlfriend Gifts for under $25 :)

Valentines day girlfriend gifts under 25 dollarsYou’ll <3 these Valentine’s Day (or birthday) gift ideas for your girlfriends!

February 14th – that very special day – is right around the corner girlfriends. So just in time to show your appreciation for those girls closest to your heart, we’ve picked out a few, fab, fun gifts to say “Happy Valentine’s Day!” in a personal way. There’s sure to be something perfect (and priced right – $25 or less!) for those who make your life better by being your friends.

Here’s a fun, friendly way to help your girlfriend stay organized and put a smile on her face. This Friendship Wallet is a cute girlfriend gift that features a colorful hand-drawn look with the design feel of a crafter’s original. What really puts this little organizer over the top are the warm words of friendship (Tell her they’re yours!) accompanied by flowers (kinda like our favorite Friendship Flower!). The canvas wallet features an open pocket for cash, a zipper pocket for change, a window slot for an ID and 4 slots for credit cards. So consider this unique gift that she’ll take with her everywhere she goes. She’ll be just a little more organized, and have you to thank for it!

valentines day flash drive girlfriend giftsFun and functional, here are two unique heart-shaped Flash Drives that you can really have some fun with. The Crystal Heart 8GB Flash Drive Necklace or the Double Heart 4GB Flash Drive Keychain (because it takes two to be girlfriends!), you can spend some time “loading” the Flash Drive with photos you’d like to share, video clips or music that say’s “I appreciate your friendship more than you know.” It’s up to you to be inspired in personalizing this drive as a gift. Your girlfriends can carry this with them anywhere and add to the contents by downloading new photos of your adventures together. (& only $6-$14!)

Valentines-day-girlfriend-gift-silver-necklaceSterling Silver Freeform Spiral Necklace – This is one of the most beautiful (and inexpensive) pieces of heart-themed jewelry we’ve come across. Who doesn’t have a girlfriend whose personal style would be brightened by this sparkling piece of art? The pendant comes ready to wear on sterling 18″ chain.  It can comfortably hold up to 4 dangling Loving Family Birthstone Charms. If you like to hear “You shouldn’t have,” in response to the gift you’ve given, you should consider this pendant for that someone special. You’ll both be glad you did.

Answer this question: where can your girlfriends find quick, inexpensive, yet distinctive gifts just right for every occasion? Homespun Gifts from the Heart has put together more than 200 simple, creative gift ideas that your girlfriends can make for birthdays, as hostess gifts, for truly any occasion. The inspiring ideas range form easy Apple Spice Cake to fun recipes for sidewalk chalk and bubbles. These gifts are economical to make and are just the right thing for every special person and occasion. Even if your girlfriend is craft challenged, she’ll delight in the clear and easy directions that accompany every idea. She’ll also find inventive gift basket instructions, creative packaging tips, and delicious gift recipes. It’s the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for creative girlfriends to make inexpensive presents for all seasons and all ages.

Valentines day, girlfriend gifts, heart soapWhat says “friendship” more than the fragrance and texture of fine French bar soap on the skin? Little we know of. Consider this elegant European girlfriend gift from the heart – Pre de Provence Soap. You will absolutely delight your girlfriend with this beautiful box Of 4, Camelia/Tea Rose bath bars. These fine soaps by Pre de Provence will give her the perfect excuse to spend an evening pampering herself with a warm bath – and whatever else her girly-girl heart desires.

valentines day, girlfriend gift, handbag hangerWhen your girlfriend is out to lunch or dinner and would rather not have to set her handbag on the floor, she can easily hang her handbag from the table with this Handy Heart Foldable Handbag Hanger. This foldable metal alloy and rubber handbag hangar measures about two inches in diameter and weighs next to nothing. It’s easy to carry design makes it another one of those simply useful gifts that will bring your friendship to mind every time she uses it. (My friend Sandy has one of these & loves it!)

Valentines day, girlfriend gift, crystal heart necklaceIt just might be the perfect gift for a girlfriend with a “sparkling” personality. Here is an adorable sparkling Pink Crystal Double Heart Charm Pendant/ Necklace that says “I value our friendship” is a sophisticated, fashionable way. Besides, what girl doesn’t adore shiny things? The radiant double heart pendant measures approximately 3/4″ in length, and comes on a beautiful silvertone 16″ snake chain. Don’t say we told you so, but this classy piece is perfect for gift giving or for yourself. We’ll keep your secret.

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