happiness app

hAPPiness in the Palm of Your Hand – Happiness Journey for Girlfriends

happiness appHappy Today Girlfriend! This year we’re looking at Happiness as a goal for our selves and in ways we can contribute to our friends’ happiness. Our ‘happiness journey’ has lead us to … Is there a technological path to happiness?

“Some Pursue Happiness – Others Create It.”

                                                                 Ralph Waldo Emerson

As long ago as the 1960’s there were theories developed that logically tied the pathways to happiness to the operation of a computer. Dr. Maxwell Maltz for one, considered the brain a computer, personal thoughts and beliefs as sources of input, and human expressions and actions as outputs. If that expression and output is recognized as happiness, it would follow that the inputs we control – our thoughts and beliefs – can be directed to create our happiness.

If only it were so easy.

What began as Psycho-Cybernetics has traveled leaps and bounds since the early days of the tech era. Now there are a multitude of readily available technology-based happiness apps literally at your fingertips. Here is a short-list of Happy-apps to consider:

HappifyTrain your brain! Happify was developed with the help of scientists to boost your happiness and feel better about your life. Through a set of research-based activities that you personalize, you can form life-changing happiness habits and build your five basic happiness skills: Savor, Thank, Aspire, Give and Empathize. The app is FREE.

HappierDiscover, create and share the small moments of gratitude in your daily life. With this on-the-go gratitude journal, you’ll find yourself routinely saying “I’m happier now because…” Bite-sized, expert-led courses will help your find new ways to experience the joy, calm, and satisfaction and comes with happiness. The app is FREE!

MoodkitCNET says “It’s like having your own portable psychologist…” It’s designed to improve both your mood and your overall well-being. It features integrated tools that will increase your optimism, enhance your mood and give you a greater sense of control over your life and happiness. The app is $4.99.

Simply BeingLet the voice-guides Simply Being app guide you through a 5-20 minute meditation session. Enjoy deep relaxation, stress relief and all the benefits of deep meditation from the start. A variety of music and nature sounds will keep you on a pathway to peaceful happiness. This app is $0.99.

Track Your HappinessA featured #1 app on the app store, you can track four happiness items and discover what makes you healthy and happy. You can track your happiness and express your gratitude, stay in touch with friends and see your progress. Graphs by the day, week and month help your visualize your journey to happiness. The app is $0.99.

That should be plenty to get you started on taking your first steps on the digital highway to happiness girlfriends. And there are plenty more where those came from, which is any gadget you’ve got that you can access apps with.

Get online girlfriend, and put the power of the internet to work on creating your happiness!  And why not share what app you’re going to use with a friend so you can share your happiness progress?!

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7 simple secrets to make friends love you

7 Simple Secrets to make Friends LOVE You

7 simple secrets to make friends love youA friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. – Elbert Hubbard

Ever move? Get super busy with kiddos or work? Become ‘a little’ addicted to social media and spend all your time on your phone? Or dedicate all your free time to others?

It’s easy to let these things happen. It’s life. It’s this time of your/my life, right? But, after the job, kids, phone, family, volunteering, exercising, cleaning, cooking, driving, delivering … sometimes ‘friends’ get lost.

FACT: Female friendship makes women healthier, happier, less stressed, live longer and feel more beautiful. Plus, DANG IT! Friends make life a lot more fun!

Some women feel like they’re unfriendable. Some of us just get super busy then wake up one day, when we need a friend, and not have anyone close to call. Some women are afraid to go the extra step in a friendship to make it a GREAT friendship.

That’s why we’re here. That’s why we need to do little things to be a friend, or an even better friend. That’s why we’re sharing these 7 Simple Secrets to make Friends LOVE You:

1. Be Thoughtful – Her birthday, favorite perfume or flower, her style and boot size, remembering to ask about her daughter’s soccer tournament or her job interview … it’s the little things that add up over time. Everyone likes to feel special, right? Make a friend (or a new acquaintance) feel special by remembering to ask about her life, by caring about the little moments in life that we need a girlfriend to share with us.

2. Be a Good Listener – It’s easy to get busy … to multi-task during a conversation, or wait to run errands before making a phone call. But are you REALLY listening? Are you picking up on the real things that matter to your friend(s)? REAL friends listen. They care. They show it by giving others all of their attention, by hearing even more than what their friend is saying. Be the friend you’d love to have. Be the listener that your BFF deserves!

3. Put the Phone AWAY – That text, Facebook update, tweet or selfie can wait. Life is short – spend it WITH your friend.

4. Understand the ‘rules of conversation’ – Ever go to a party and get ‘stuck’ talking to someone about THEM (and they’re not that interesting?). Don’t be that person. Know the ‘rules’ – like: ask about them, care about them, listen to them. Forget about yourself when you’re talking to her. Make her the center of attention. Your friendship will grow as you show her how much you care about her.

5. Compliment her (sincerely) – Having a friend is a blessing. Having friends who make you feel good about yourself is a joy. Be the kind of friend who notices that she’s lost weight, has a new outfit or haircut, that she’s completed a race or achieved a major goal. Be that kind of friend. She’ll (sincerely) appreciate it and you!

6. Resist the Urge to give Advice – Girlfriend advice is AWESOME, if you want advice, right? Sometimes as girlfriends, we might feel like we’re allowed to be honest, even if it edges on giving advice. Refer to #2 above – LISTEN. Show her you trust her to do the right thing, buy the most flattering jeans or get the perfect new hairdo. Unless she asks, just be a friend and give her the benefit of the doubt.

7. Make Time for Your Friends – We saved the best for last. Look at your calendar. When was the last time you spent time with a friend? When did you actually make the effort, spend the time, and share your lives? When did you laugh together, or cry together? Girlfriend, it’s the most important thing we have … our time. How we spend it is a real indicator of what’s important to us. Just do it. Make time for your friends. You won’t regret it!

7 simple secrets to being a better friend. Friends are worth every one of them!

What’s your Friendship ‘secret?’

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Halloween Erma Bombeck quote

Happy Fall and Halloween Girlfriends! 10 Ways to Celebrate Falloween

A grandmother pretends she doesn’t know who you are on Halloween. ~Erma Bombeck

Halloween Erma Bombeck quoteWe love Erma Bombeck. She had such a gift for women’s wisdom. Like:

When your mother asks, ‘Do you want a piece of advice?’ it is a mere formality. It doesn’t matter if you answer yes or no. You’re going to get it anyway.

A friend never defends a husband who gets his wife an electric skillet for her birthday.

It takes a lot of courage to share your dreams with someone else.

LOVE Erma! So glad she shared girlfriend advice with all of us!

We’re celebrating FALLOWEEN this week on Girlfriendology. It’s that special collision of Halloween and Fall that has us shopping for pumpkins and decorative ghords, candy and candied yams, costumes and elastic-waist pants!

As we love to do on Girlfriendology, we try to share women’s wisdom and insights on life that hopefully can help you create moments and memories with friends and family. So, here’s our Falloween celebration ideas … (SHARE YOURS in the comments below!)

1. Don’t fret over having Left-over Halloween Candy! We’ve got some ideas on how to get rid of it!

2. Enjoy Halloween Treats without Guilt – because a girlfriend would never make you feel guilty about some candy!

3. Invite the Girls over for some ‘scary-good’ wines! Our review of Elk Creek Wines. What’s your favorite fall wine?

4. Get together and make some fun Falloween craft projects, like this Jack-o-Lantern bucket (fill with the candy you’re handing out or a fall floral arrangement). I’m using some Thanksgiving kitchen towels from Target right now as fabric to cover some pillows for the season. What fun creative projects are you doing?

5.  Get dressed up for Halloween WITH your Girlfriends! The shopper-girls of Sex and the City? Movie BFFs Thelma and Louise? Dress up together – it’s much more fun!

6. How about some ‘Retail Therapy’ with your Shopping BFFs? Get the girls together and go Fall Fashion shopping. What’s your Fall Fashion fave outfit? (Me? Give me some boots and jeans or tights/dress, I’m a happy girl!)

7. Celebrate Fall Girlfriend Birthdays! Give her a thoughtful gift and get creative in making her feel special on her special day.

8. Invite the Girls over for a Football Party! Who says that boys should have all the Football fun?! Not us! The NFL says that 44% of their fans are definitely female. Watch ‘the game’ with the girls – and enjoy treats like the recipe for Crockpot Buffalo Chicken! (or this Crockpot Pumpkin Bread!)

9. The cold weather makes it perfect to throw a Girlfriend Soup Party! What’s your favorite fall soup? Why not share it with your friends?

 10. Help yourself and your friends prepare for the coming ‘hectic holidays.’ Giving your friends support in the crazy-busy seasonal days. Doesn’t require special gift wrapping!

The most important thing about celebrating Fall and Halloween (or Falloween), is just planning time with your friends. DO IT! Have a great Fall Girlfriends!

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Girlfriend Football party

Recipe for a Fun Football & Friends Party | Crockpot Buffalo Chicken

Pull on your favorite jersey, call up your foodball-fan friends and throw an awesome fall party!

Girlfriend Football partyWhether it’s NFL, College or High School games, we women are football crazy at this time of year. Actually, according to data from the ESPN Sports Poll and the U.S. Census, league officials say 44 percent of all football fans are now women. Go girl power! Taking over football too!

So, it’s just natural and a lot of fun to invite the girls over for a football party. Here’s a couple ideas – add yours in the comments!

* GO BACK TO SCHOOL – Remember when we used to cheer on our own high school team? We’d go with our girlfriends and watch the game, or maybe not watch the game but just enjoy spending time together. At your alma mater or your (or a friends’) child’s school, get the girls together for some high school football. Meet at your home before or after for snacks and drinks. Go girlfriends! (Bonus if you all dress or do your hair as you did in high school!)

* TAILGATE!!! – At a live game or even just to gather around a TV, invite your besties for a tailgate party in a stadium parking lot or even your driveway. Especially if it is nice, chilly weather, make up some chili or grill some burgers, have a cooler of beverages and hang out outside with your fun fanatic friends!

* BEST VIEW OF THE GAME – is generally on TV so invite the girls over to your house to watch the game of the week. Make it easy by preparing a tasty dish ahead of time in your crockpot, like this CROCKPOT BUFFALO CHICKEN recipe from our friends at WannaBite.com. (Doesn’t it look great! Can’t wait to have the girls over to try it!) Maybe a game of tag football during halftime? ;)

* LONGEST PLAY OF THE DAY – Does your football friend live in another city, state or even country?! Do you talk football with her? Make wagers? Cheer for each other’s teams? Why not watch a game together? Hopefully you can both watch the same game simultaneously. Then, get your own snacks and drinks, and give her a call on Skype, Facetime or in a Google+ hang-out. It will almost seem like she’s there on the couch with you disputing the ref’s and cheering on your favorite football teams!

Other ideas on a fun, friend-filled football party? Share in the comments below!

And … here’s even more FALL IDEAS FOR GIRLFRIENDS :)

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Never take friendship for granted quote

Month of Friendship, Day 30: Spend time with a Girlfriend

Never take friendship for granted quoteNever take friendship for granted, you never know what tomorrow holds. – Catherine Pulsifer

The most special times are spent with a special friend.

Look back on the memories, the high and low points, the times you’ve needed someone to lean on or were there for a friend in need. What made those times memorable, tolerable and even inspirational?

Having our friends by our side during all the challenges and celebrations life throws at us is just one of the amazing benefits of having girlfriends. Friends to divide our pain, double our joy and share our memories is a beautiful gift that we should never take for granted.

We’ve been on a journey this month through our Month of Friendship exploring 30 days and 30 ways to reconnect with old friends, find new friends and just be a better friend. Today we’re wrapping up the month with a big ‘bow’ that ties it all together – the recommendation, or ‘girlfriend challenge,’ that we just need to spend time together with our girlfriends.

The gift of time, and sharing that gift with a friend, makes up the special moments of which memories are made. It’s such a precious gift – sharing the one thing that is limited and always in demand. And, as an unknown of how much we’ll get, it is the ultimate expression of love, respect and friendship.

You already know this. We’re overwhelmingly aware of the limited time we have to share. Our conclusion, after 30 days of exploring ways to connect and reconnect with friends, and growing friendships, is as simple as making time in our day to have coffee together, walk and talk, share a meal or drink or just sit on a porch and laugh about old times.

How do you make time for your friends? When have your friends made time for you – and how did that make you feel?

Life is so much better together with your girlfriends. Make time for each other. Cherish the moments, memories and friendships.

This is part of our Month of Friendship. Check out these 29 days/ways to reconnect with old friends, make new friends and being a better friend:

Today’s ‘Girlfriend Video Lunch Break’ (that we feature everyday on our Facebook fan page) says it so well, spend those minutes, as many as you can, with your friends – that’s ‘love.’

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Be a better friend

What if every day was GIRLFRIEND APPRECIATION Day? (Hint … it is!)

Be a better friendWe’re nearing the end of International Women’s Friendship Month. Sadly. This month, designated by Kappa Delta, is set aside (internationally!) to recognize the relationship in our life that makes women healthier, happier, less stressed, live longer and feel more beautiful. That’s pretty dang awesome – right?!

The only way to have a friend is to be one.

Ralph Waldo Emerson
 
It’s been a great month. We’ve explored 30 days and 30 ways to be a better friend. We’ve looked at friendship from 30 different angles – each one of them Each one reminds us of the blessings of female friendship.
 
Here’s the funny part. It’s not that hard to ‘be a better friend.’ We actually talk about it a lot on Girlfriendology. It’s making a special effort, being a better listener, staying in touch even when your friend is long distance, it’s being there for a friend when she needs you.
 
Sure, it’s the end of this special month designated for female friendship. But, it’s just a reminder of how to live every day … grateful for the amazing women who bless your life EVERY SINGLE DAY.
 
Girlfriends … they’re worth celebrating! They do make your life … healthier, happier, less stressed, and more beautiful. What friend(s) do you need to repay the favor? To make her feel loved and appreciated like she does you?

TODAY is a GREAT DAY to show a friend how much she means to you. TODAY is a great day for GIRLFRIEND APPRECIATION Day! Be a better friend!

 
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ask a friend for a favor

Month of Friendship, Day 28: Ask a Girlfriend for a Favor

ask a friend for a favorMay I ask a favor girlfriend?

Several years ago I was so excited to be traveling to England for the first time. In preparing for the trip, I found myself without a ride to the airport. Because I was so looking forward to this trip and visiting a dear girlfriend there, I just didn’t want to have to fly off without a parting hug (& figured a cab driver would find this a bit strange!). So, I asked my girlfriends who might be available to drive me. Allison, my dear walking buddy, volunteered for the favor.

I remember our conversation on the drive to the airport. I remember how much nicer it felt to have someone see me off who cared about me and was happy to help me. And I remember getting that ‘mandatory’ hug before departing. It was the perfect send off – because my girlfriend was there for me.

My girlfriend Ellen locked her keys in her car while at work. She called and asked if I could go to her house, retrieve her extra set of keys and bring them to her. Of course, I dropped what I was doing and did exactly that. I remember driving to her office and feeling so blessed because of her friendship. I loved that she was comfortable asking me to assist her when she needed someone. I remember how happy it made me feel to be able to help and to know that our friendship was at the level where we could ‘impose’ and that it wasn’t an imposition. That we were girlfriends who are there for each other.

For many of us, asking a friend for a favor isn’t easy. We might not want to infringe on them, interrupt their busy day/life or appear needy. We don’t want to be a bother. I know I often feel this way but I also know that I might be overly-cautious and I might be missing an opportunity to take our friendship to that next level. I might miss out on showing them how much I do need them in my life and might not allow them the joy that comes from being there for a friend.

 

Do you ask your friends for favors? Are you there for them as well? It does need to be a fairly balanced relationship so that one friend doesn’t feel taken advantage of, but asking a friend for a favor can be you way of being a better friend. And helping a friend in need can strengthen your friendship.

So, the next time you need a ride to the airport, your girlfriend needs her dog watched, you need advice for your garden or your friend needs to get out of the house, be there for each other. Be the kind of friend who is willing to assist and who feels comfortable asking a friend for a hand. That’s what friends do.

“Familiar acts are beautiful through love.” Percy Bysshe Shelley

This is part of our Month of Friendship. Check out these 27 days and 27 ways to reconnect with old friends, make new friends and being a better friend:

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5 ways to give a thoughtful girlfriend gift

Month of Friendship, Day 29: 5 Ways to give a Thoughtful Girlfriend Gift

What is the most thoughtful gift a girlfriend has given you? Or you’ve given to a friend?

5 ways to give a thoughtful girlfriend giftLeave it to my girlfriends to always give the best, most thoughtful gifts – be it for my birthday, holiday or a ‘just because’ gift. My friend Terri often gets my gift at my favorite shop where she lives/I used to live. It’s always perfect and perfectly Terri. My college roomie and BFF, Barb, often makes me a gift – like a beautiful afghan she crocheted for me. My fab friends Deana, Rhonda and Cath (and others – too many to name, I’m blessed!) always give me something special and, again, perfect.

It’s much more than something purchased for me and wrapped. It’s an act of love – to take time out of their busy lives to find a present that expresses our friendship; to spend their valuable, limited time selecting a gift and presenting it to me. It’s a wonderful tradition between girlfriends – to give thoughtful, personalized, wonderful gifts.

Actual, physical gifts from a friend are best when they’re something she’d ‘want’ and not necessarily ‘need.’ (Although, there are exceptions to that rule – like she might need and want new running shoes or a Fall coat.) Not the standard, ‘cookie-cutter’ gift is best too – probably not a gift from an infomercial, dollar/cheap store or drug store. Something that, when you see it, speaks to you of her is perfect.

Here’s 5 ways to give a thoughtful girlfriend gift:

  • The Gift of Time – So many of us are soooo overbooked. Give your busy girlfriend the gift of time – help her (or do it for her) organize her closet, weed her garden or run her errands. Arrange for a babysitter so she can spend time on things she wants to do – like hopefully spending time with you. Do whatever you can do to free up a few hours of her day. She’ll love you for it!
  • Reminder Gifts – I love gifts that remind me of my friend: the afghan my BFF Barb made me is a great example. I think of her every single time I see that beautiful gift and feel like she is nearby when it keeps we warm. Give a piece of jewelry or a memorable gift to show her how much her friendship means to you.
  • Funny and Creative Gifts – A silly surprise can help her laugh her way through what might be an otherwise stressful day/birthday. Get creative – I heard of one women whose girlfriends rented a hearse as their limo for her BIG birthday. That might be a bit much, but you can do things like finding little funny gifts that equal her birthday years or make a funny challenge out of trivia from the year she was born, etc. Just make it a special day for her!
  • Friendship Gifts – We’ve shared about ‘Happy Jill Day‘ (where a friend celebrated her girlfriend and their friendship with a surprise celebration and friendship ring). Jill now has a ring that reminds her of that special friendship. (We have a host of gifts that feature jewelry, hats – like above, mugs, t-shirts, etc. with our ‘friendship flower.’ These are meant to express how much you love and appreciate your girlfriends.)
  • Memories Gifts – I love the memories I share with my friends. Times we’ve hung out together, traveled, shopped, laughed and cried together. Take every opportunity to make memories with your girlfriends and, for her birthday or a special ‘present, this might just mean going on an adventure together (or a cruise with your girlfriends!) or making a tradition out of spending time together (like with a book club or regular GNO happy hour). Just take time to be there for each other.

We asked our Facebook Fans about what one gift they’d give their girlfriend(s) and they responded:

  • Joanne: My time. The greatest gift a friend gives me is time in their schedule and a listening ear.
  • Geraldine: Lots of luv, and an undivided amount of time to listen to her!!
  • Janet: TIme. Specifically….a 5-day Girls Getaway cruise with friends!! MORE specific…A Girls Getaway with friends from Girlfriendology!!
  • Theresa: A day spa with full treatment. She just had son #4 (yes she knows what caused it, lol) and probably really needs some estrogenated air as her home is filled with the testosterone of five men!
  • Alison: The ocean where she loves to be.
  • Rosalind: Cozy wine/coffee station in her kitchen.
  • Deborah: Some serenity in her life at the moment. She surely has needed it for awhile. I would do anything to take away her pain, if even for a day.
  • Auburn: A lifetime supply of Starbucks coffee, Jolly Ranchers, Chocolate and lifetime spa treatments – to all my Girlfriends. Love you much, You rock!
  • Margaret: Like the spa treatments for life. And once a year for the rest of your life a two weeks vacation everything paid for.

What thoughtful gifts have your girlfriends given you? How have you made your friends feel as special as their friendship is to you?

This is part of our Month of Friendship. Check out these 28 days and 28 ways to reconnect with old friends, make new friends and being a better friend:

Just one more day in this MONTH OF WOMEN’S FRIENDSHIP, but we’ll keep celebrating all year! Tomorrow … we wrap up 30 days, 30 ways to be a better friend!

Anticipate her needs

Month of Friendship, Day 27: Anticipate Her Needs

Anticipate her needsHow can you be a better friend?

We’re so blessed that our girlfriends really KNOW us. Often even more than a families, our friends take note of what brings us joy or stress, they pick up on our likes and dislike, and they notice the hints we may drop intentionally or not. Our friends ‘get’ us and sometimes can even see our goals and dreams  for us when we lose sight of them

Being a better friend means going the extra distance. It is making an ‘above and beyond’ type effort – not settling for an ‘if it happens, it happens’ friendship but deliberately committing ourselves to each other as BFFs, as long-term, ‘we’ll make it through everything – together’ kind of friends.

One way of going the extra distance is to anticipate her needs. If we can look ahead to … Read More

Tell a friend how much she means to you

Month of Friendship, Day 26: Tell her how much her friendship means to you

Tell a friend how much she means to youDoes your BFF know how much she means to you? Do the amazing women in your life feel as special as their friendship is to you?

We tend to assume, don’t we? That if we appreciate our friend(s), that they know exactly what we’re thinking. We take for granted the expression of love and admiration, joy and appreciation when it comes to our friends. And, sometimes we just get busy and forget to say “thank you,” “you mean the world to me” or “I’m a better person because of you.”

It’s sad, really, that we don’t tell the women we love that we do love and appreciate them. We don’t thank them for the amazing lessons they teach us through their friendship, support and by example. We fail to express the ways they have impacted our lives – from their sense of humor to their sense of style, from their wisdom and their knowledge, from their kindness to their strength.

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Always tell someone how you feel, because opportunities are lost in the blink of an eye, but regret can last a lifetime.

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We’re nearing the end of this Month of Friendship, with a wonderful ‘challenge’ for you. Today/this week, your task is to share your true feelings and appreciation to your girlfriends. You don’t need to tell ALL your friends – start with the friends who may need to hear from you, who may need to be told how important they are, or who may not realize the importance they have in your life. (Then you might have so much fun sharing your girlfriend gratitude, that you share with all your friends!)

It can be as simple as a card and hand-written message, a thoughtful gift, a sweet tweet or a heart-felt “tell all the world how much I appreciate you” Facebook comment. (Or copy/paste this ‘Thanks for being my friend‘ graphic and post on your friends’ Facebook pages!) You don’t have to wait for Sunday, our official “phone a friend day,” you could always call up a friend and just share your girlfriend gratitude. Your appreciation and thankfulness for their friendship can be expressed through any form of communication.

The format doesn’t really matter. The only factor that does count is that you show your girlfriend gratitude, acknowledge the lessons you’ve learned from them, and share how much they mean to you. Don’t assume they know these things – they don’t. They may know you love them, and I’m sure they love you right back, but a heart-felt expression of appreciation and love is a rare and wonderful thing.

So, will you take this girlfriend challenge? Will you tell a friend – or maybe a few – how much their friendship means to you? And will you share your story with us? (Share and inspire others!)

Days 1-25 of our Month of Friendship:Friendship Thanks for being my friend

Only a few more days in this MONTH OF FEMALE FRIENDSHIP! (But we’ll keep celebrating girlfriends all year long!) Tomorrow, a basic guideline for friendship that helps us be more thoughtful!
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Surprise your girlfriends

Month of Friendship, Day 24: Surprise your BFF

Surprise your girlfriendsWhen was the last time you surprised a friend, or she surprised you?

Was it a ‘big’ birthday or graduation? Was it a girlfriend gift you found that made you think of her? Was it a surprise visit when she had no idea you were nearby? It’s the “peak-a-boo” syndrome – generally, we love being surprised, when it’s a good surprise!

Or maybe we’re more like Oprah, who has said: “I love surprising people, I don’t like being surprised.” (But remember how her Producers LOVED to surprise her?!)

Surprise is the greatest gift which life can grant us.

Boris Pasternak

Today’s ‘girlfriend challenge,’ in this Month of Friendship, is to surprise a friend and make her feel as special as her friendship is to you. Here’s a few idea on ways to surprise a friend:

  • Friendship Jen Mindy girlfriend surprise

    “School of Thoughtfulness” – Mindy and Jen are the two fabulous friends featured in the photo. Mindy returned home from vacation late one night. On her door step, a cooler filled with ‘breakfast’ – food for the following morning. Knowing she wouldn’t have anything to eat, her BFF Jen filled a cooler with everything needed to wake up to a great breakfast on her first day back home. (As Mindy says, she “studies at Jen’s ‘School of Thoughtfulness'” in this previous Girlfriendology blog.)

  • Have a Surprise Party - Even if it’s not her birthday or an official day of celebration, throw her a party – like Jill’s friend did for her (aka: Happy Jill Day!). Any day is a great day to celebrate and surprise a friend, right? Show up where she’d least expect you. Invite other friends to join you. Make it all about her and making sure she knows how much her friendship means to you.
  • Send a Surprise - Women love to receive flowers (like this bouquet of ‘friendship flowers‘), which can be an awesome surprise. Or get creative and send a box of helium balloons or a bunch of little gifts that you know she’ll love. Make your own gift basket filled with all her favorite items/products. Or send a card – or one everyday for a month. Just let her know that you’d thinking of her.

And we had some amazing girlfriend surprises shared by our Facebook friends:

 

  • Cynthia Lee shared: One of my best friend just sent me a goodie package from Harry and David! She is the best!
  • Denise added: One of my friends sent me an email telling me to go outside and look under a bush near my driveway – she had left me a little garden statue that just spoke to my heart and left me smiling for days!
  • Paige offered: My dear friend in St. Lucia just sent me a monogrammed leather belt! We’ve never met in person, but I just love this girl!
  • Janelle broke our hearts with this story: I found out my friend was living in her car in another state (a week until her apt was ready) I canceled my vacation plans and sent her the money for a hotel. She tried to pay it back but I won’t take it. I’m glad I was able to help her. A gift of love is just that!
  • Janet shared: One of my best friends from high school just invited us to a villa in Cabo. Unfortunately I can’t go because I have a convention that week, but I was so happy that she thought of us. Means a lot to me!
  • Janelle also offered: I would like to give special thanks to Deanna. I was in another state after back surgery and someone intentionally broke my cane, after seeing the trouble I was having trying to walk she gave me hers. We had just met.

Doesn’t that make you feel like surprising your BFF? What are you going to do? Share and inspire!

Days 1-23 of our Month of Friendship:

Thanks for celebrating this MONTH OF FRIENDSHIP with us! Tomorrow … it’s cool to go to school with a girlfriend!

fall ideas for friends

5 Fab, Fun, Fall Ideas for Friends – Getting Together with your Girlfriends

fall ideas for friendsWelcome Fall!

Who’s like me and loves this Autumn time of year? I love the coolness in the air, the hint of leaves ready to change into their Fall wardrobe, football games and Fall festivals – I LOVE FALL!

Every season brings with it great reasons to get the girls together and go places, do things and, most of all, make memories with the special women who bless our lives.

Here’s Five Fab, Fun, Fall Ideas for Friends:

Fall Bake-Off – Load up the car with your favorite female friends. Then, hit a roadside stand or farmers market for the wonderful fall harvest of apples and pumpkins (and don’t forget some mums for the front porch!). From there, you have the most important ingredients for a great time for a Fall bake-off with the girls! (To get you started – apple recipes!)

Rake Leaves Together – It’s much more fun to do fall chores with a friend by your side, than not! It’s the fun way to get ready for winter, a little exercise and a clean yard with a girlfriend with a rake!

Girlfriend Fall Lunch – Put on the autumn tablecloth (I have mine on!), set the table and create a special lunch with your special friends. Serve up some seasonal treats like hot cider, apple crisp

Go Fall Shopping – Remember getting new clothes for the new school year? Need some new boots?! Why not refresh your wardrobe AND hang out with your fab, fashionable friends at the mall? Check out the Fall Trends online or in a fashion magazine, then go on out for some autumn retail therapy with your stylish BFFs!

Fall Photo Shoot/Walk – Need some great photos for Facebook or Pinterest? Meet up with your girlfriends at a local park or garden and either take turns being the photographer or hire/ask someone to take photos of your with your gorgeous girlfriends in the fab fall foliage!

And … here’s even more FALL IDEAS FOR GIRLFRIENDS :)

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live and learn

Month of Friendship, Day 25: Take a Class with your Girlfriend

live and learnBack to school time – for girlfriends?

Remember the anticipation of a new school year? Wondering who would be in your class, catching up with old friends, getting new clothes and school supplies? By far the best part of going back to school was spending time with my girlfriends daily – knowing they’d be right there to help me through my lessons, when I needed to talk and always great for a laugh.

Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.

Mahatma Gandhi

We’re exploring 30 days and 30 ways to be a better friend in our Month of Friendship. Today, day 25, we’re going ‘back to school’ – kinda – with a girlfriend.

Have you ever taken a class with a friend? It’s a great way to spend time together, have fun, learn something and did I mention have FUN?! From ballet to zumba, cooking to pottery, yoga to Tai Chi, taking a class together is a wonderful excuse to just see each other and share an experience. It’s just a fun way to learn something – together.

You never know what memories you’ll make together … Several years ago my girlfriends decided to take Ballet. I didn’t want to be left out so I took it too. It was hilarious! We had a blast and laughed until we cried as we barely made it through the class. I’ll never forget the pottery classes I took with my friend Holly (as well as our welding class). We encouraged and helped each other. We bragged on each other’s work and shared ideas. We learned about each other as we discovered a passion for creatively ‘throwing clay’ and have the bowls and vases to remind us of those fun times together. (Read more about that amazing friendship and our pottery classes.)

To get started, find out what classes are available. Check community education programs, community colleges, colleges/universities, craft classes at Michael’s, gyms and local rec centers, art centers, knitting stores, foreign language schools, newspapers and community publications – or just ask around. Want to learn Italian, yoga or gourmet cooking? Check with other girlfriends and see if they know of places that teach what you want to learn.

friendship girlfriends taking a class together

Find a friend who’s up for the same challenge. Or maybe more than one friend. Just find fun friend(s) who share the same interest and desire to learn together. Then commit to learning together and put it on my calendar. Knowing she’s planning on it too will make sure you follow through with your class(es).

Not sure what class to take? We asked our Facebook Friends about taking classes with their friends and they shared these great ideas for taking a class with your girlfriend(s):

  • Donna: Yes, my friend (BFF) having done scrapbooking it was the best!!! We laughed so hard at old pictures we actually cried. With this same friend, we have gone to Vegas, just us two, and had an unbelievable awesome time.
  • Patricia: My BFF and I met in elementary school. Does that count?
  • Leslie: I’ve taken Tai Chi with one girlfriend and scrapbook with another. It is always a good time
  • Nan: Gab gals attended a cooking class just last night!
  • Pam: Yes! I took eroticize dance classes with my daughter-in-law. We had a great time, and the works are great too!
  • Carolyn: I am attending the Braveheart conference and look forward to learning, sharing, and being with my dear friend. Are any of you going? If so, let’s meet up!
  • Terri: My BFF and I took beginning HTML together. We both spilled lattes on our shirts before the class started. I remember that…not so much about the HTML. (Being that BFF, I admit to having the larger stain and had to wear my long hair in the front all day!)
  • Erin: Gab Gal pal Nan & I took a cooking class last night! Yum-OOOOO!
  • Nikia: Yoga and Bible Study
  • Mary Ann: We did a fondant cake decorating class. it was a great time!
  • Cynthia: Yes, how to use our digital cameras!
  • OWC: Yoga, Baking
  • Sara: a beginners cross stitch class. we had a great time!
  • Jamie: jazzercise
  • Carol: Yoga…..then always dinner after!! Oh….and kickboxing too!

What have you always wanted to learn or to improve your skills in? What girlfriend would be a fun ‘student’ to join you? Why not go ‘back to school’ with your BFF(s)? Have fun girlfriends!

Days 1-24 of our Month of Friendship:

Just a few more days in this MONTH OF WOMEN’S FRIENDSHIP. Tomorrow … something really special, that you and your BFF won’t forget!

Go explore with a girlfriend

Month of Friendship, Day 23: Go explore your city with a Girlfriend

Go explore with a girlfriendToday’s challenge: Grab a girlfriend and go explore!

When was the last time you and your girlfriend went to the zoo – together? A nearby museum? A festival or park outside of your neighborhood? Girlfriends are great exploring companions so, for our Month of Friendship challenge today, we’re encouraging you to get out of the house, leave the family at home and go explore your city with a girlfriend.

Why? Because you not only get to know your hometown a little better, you get to know your friend better too. Exploring together is the perfect way to spend the day – visit shops you’ve never visited, go to a park and walk the trails, pretend you’re a newbie in your town and explore museums and galleries.

First, find a friend who is adventurous and can take off some time to explore with you. Think about those friends whom you haven’t seen in a while and who, after spending time together, you always want to hang out some more. Extend the invitation to go explore and set the date.

friendship health-good-friends exploring city parks

Now to figure out what you want to do for the day. If you can, either meet to plan or spend some time on the phone with your willing adventurer girlfriend and discuss your options. What cultural/arts locations haven’t you visited recently? Any parks or neighborhoods that you’ve wanted to explore? Any concerts, exhibits or galleries? What about a fall festival or nearby events? If you were a visitor in your hometown, what would  you want to do?

Stop by a hotel that caters to out of town guests to pick up any brochures or information on local events and destinations. Check your coupon/Entertainment books for discount tickets or stop by RetailMeNot.com and enter your location/city for discounts at places nearby. Look for places and activities that you’ll both enjoy and that will be something new to do.

If you want to get really creative, choose several options and plan out the day. Breakfast at a favorite or new restaurant, shopping, late lunch then some museum time probably isn’t a typical day for you so go for it and make some memories together. Are you and your girlfriend more active? Meet at the gym for spinning, then have a healthy lunch together and go for a hike in a nearby park. (Note: plan your girlfriend adventure for this Saturday, September 25th and go to a National Park. No entrance fees that day!)

It’s actually not so much about where you go for what you do. It’s taking time to be together. Enjoying conversations that only happen when you’re just hanging out together. Making memories of fun times together. Just go, girlfriend! Remember …

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”  Mark Twain

What would a perfect day hanging out with your BFF look like? Why not plan it?!

Days 1-22 of our Month of Friendship:

Thank you so much for celebrating Women’s Friendship Month with us! Aren’t you glad you have girlfriends?! Tomorrow … it’s a SURPRISE!

coffee with a friend

Month of Friendship, Day 22 – Coffee with a Girlfriend

Coffee with a Girlfriend – isn’t it the best way to start the day?

coffee with a friendActually, starting the day with a friend, with or without caffeine, is a pretty great day. Today we’re looking at yet another way to reconnect with old friends or bond with new friends in this Month of Friendship, and it just starts the day with a friend.

My girlfriends Jill and Becky used to meet with me every Friday morning just to catch up. We’d share coffee and conversation that only girlfriends could share – our lives, thoughts, fears and seeing us through tough times like Jill losing her job (but YEAH! she has a new one!) to really sad realities like Becky losing her sweet husband Bruce to cancer last Thanksgiving. That’s what girlfriends do, we share our lives – and sometimes over a cup of our favorite beverage.

So today’s Month of Friendship challenge is pretty easy. Just meet a friend for a coffee, or tea, or wine, or porch time. Just spend some quality time together talking, sipping coffee and just doing life- together.

I really, really miss those Friday mornings with Becky and Jill. Unfortunately, new jobs for both of them have changed our schedule and we’re still trying to figure that out. But I totally recommend having a regular schedule for catching up with girlfriends. Every Saturday morning for coffee or each Friday afternoon for a margarita. Find some ‘excuse’ to get together on a regular basis -for a little coffee and conversation. Get in the habit of spending time together. You’ll be so glad you did.

And then check out these other ways to connect with your friends and share what you’ve done/learned about staying in touch with the amazing women in your life … starting with just having a coffee together!

Days 1-21 of our Month of Friendship:

We’re celebrating Women’s Friendship Month! Tomorrow … get out and ___!!!