What turns a friend into a BFF?
This week being National Best Friends Day, we’re still celebrating those special friends who bless our lives with theirs.
In that spirit of best-friendship, (and in the words of Carrie Bradshaw), I couldn’t help but wonder what turns a stranger into a friend then into the coveted BFF title. What has to transpire to build the relationship and to increase the likelihood that this person to have a significant role in our life and be around for a long time?
Do we need to face a hardship together or have so much in common? Or, like with romantic relationships, are we attracted to friends who are opposites of ourselves? Does this status come over time or can it come just over a bottle of wine? Can we find a BFF at first sight? Or does it take a matter of years to nurture and grow into a best friend relationship? Are we limited to only one BFF or unlimited best friends? Do we look for a variety of friends who each play a major role in our life yet may be segmented into different areas of our life – like our ‘fellow mommy’ BFF, our fun/going out and getting wild girlfriend, our encouraging and supportive best friend or the friend who understand our situation (like cancer or other challenges) that no one else can relate to as well?
Do you have multiple BFFs – and how do you measure the depth of friendship? By the quality of your communication and shared concern? By the intimacy and trust in sharing your deepest thoughts and most passionate dreams? By the faith you share in each other or the common bonds, background or beliefs you have?
As unique as each one of us, equally so are our friendships. The one consistent fact is that we all NEED friends. And, we definitely need our share of BFFs. (Remember, girlfriends make us healthier, happier, less stressed, live longer and feel more beautiful!) And, all that matters is that they’re there for us and we have the honor of reciprocating the love, trust, respect, admiration and support that BFFs bring into our lives.
What are your thoughts, girlfriend?
The world is full of a variety of individuals and amazingly different varieties of friendships. And, I believe, each relationship is unique – so this isn’t a question that yields an easy answer. To each of us, we have to evaluate the people in our lives and find the emotional bonds that elevate them to the cherished title of BFF. And cherished they should be.
It’s never too late to celebrate National Best Friends Day. (And here are 10 ways to celebrate Best Friends Day!) Celebrate and appreciate your BFFs – and then inspire us with your stories and tales of your friendships!
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My BFFs change in the different chapters of my life, but I’ve noticed my BFFs in each chapter have served a unique purpose and we have a lot in common at the time. However my BFFs truly are the Best Friends Forever and we will never loose touch. So for me I have multiple BFFs and they hold special places in my heart.
So time appropriate for my life right now. Well, I guess I should say my 8 year olds life. When my Abby talks about her friends, they are all her best friends. I asked her about this last week and she said she wanted everyone to feel special. How profound!
Am I the only grow woman who still loves to hear I’m someone’s best friend? Maybe so but I love it!
For the record I have a lot of Besties! I know, I know…what am I 12. ha
Cammy Jo, no you’re not the only grown woman who still loves to hear you’re someone’s BF. Those words carry a very special meaning, especially in the girlfriend world. It makes you feel you’re loved and special in someone’s life other than family, and that’s something to smile and feel good about.
Cammy Jo and Sherry – I love how you love your BFFs and being one! It is a super special title to hold – and one with responsibility and pride!!
Thanks for sharing and for being a BFF! Debba
p.s. I hope you don’t mind, but I’m going to include Abby’s comment about her BFFs in our newsletter. Such a sweet sentiment!
My BFF is my sister, Valerie. She would have been my BFF regardless of whether she was my sister — she’s just the best. She’s got my back, she’s the wind beneath my wings, she raises me up so I can stand on her shoulders. Everything she does is to help me succeed, to be happy, to grow, to be comforted, to have a great life. I try to do the same for her. I suspect she’s a little better at it than I am, though! So what makes a BFF? I believe it’s more than going through something rough together. I think you have to have certain traits in common (similarities, not differences). Some of the things I look for, and she does as well, are: honesty in the relationship or it can’t go deeper, transparency of each of us, humility, good judgement, forgiveness, fun, a comfortability bc of common morals & spirituality & values, someone who has my best interests at heart, someone who is THERE for me — in good times and in bad, someone who will go the extra mile, someone who knows me and loves me regardless, someone who tries to love me as the Lord loves me — and I them, someone I can trust and who can trust me (whether it be with our lives or with one of our children or whatever), someone who lets me stand on their shoulders or is my wind — so I can stand high and soar — amongst other traits — that my BFF Valerie!
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