Girlfriend Guru Stacey: Girlfriends are like the icing on the cake!
Girlfriends are like the icing on the cake!
Our Girlfriendology “Girlfriend Guru” STACEY CREW is not only an organization expert, but also a helpful, thoughtful girlfriend who loves her friends. She inspired us on a recent Girlfriendology podcast as she shared great girlfriend advice on how we can take control of our lives by being more organized.
Girlfriends are like the icing on the cake!
By Girlfriend Guru: STACEY CREW
Today I spoke with my long-time BFF who lives 800 miles from me. We’ve known each other since second grade, when she moved from Brooklyn to New Jersey. She may as well have been from another country with her NY accent and a little bit of toughness already at the age of 8. I don’t remember exactly how we became friends, but we were inseparable for a long time. I was the maid-of-honor in her wedding and watched her become a mom for the first time eight years before I dared to venture to do the same.
For many years, other than Christmas cards and her annual family holiday letter, which I look forward to, we didn’t talk. It wasn’t because we had a falling out or didn’t like each other anymore; we were just at different stages in our lives. As a devoted mother and wife, she was busy raising her children and giving her all to her family, which I now respect more than ever. I have to admit that at the time, I wondered how someone could get so bogged down in motherhood. Well, now I know. And now I know that my friend has set an extraordinary example of how to be a great mom!
Our conversation today was prompted by her Facebook status that read: I’m proud of Lisa {alias} for digging deep and getting back on track. Her daughter, who is 17, has been experiencing some difficulties in her teenage years, but my BFF has been there to nurture and support her. My daughter who is almost 11 has hit the onset of puberty. As a mom, this is a frightening discovery, actually, one that no matter how prepared I thought I was, I’m not!
My BFF and I talked about how she’s making it through the teenage years and what I have to look forward to. Ha. I’m really scared now! Just kidding. Actually, I discovered that I’m on the right track in being present for my daughter and available to her. So in spite of the attitude and mood swings we’re already experiencing, my patience and tolerance has grown, I’m utilizing my deep breathing skills regularly, and we will make it through!
Toward the end of the conversation with my BFF, I realized I hadn’t asked how her husband was dealing with all of the changes with their daughter. My BFF chuckled a little, and basically said, “He’s not.” I laughed and realized, once again, how important our GF sisterhood is in raising independent, strong young women. After speaking with my BFF today, I felt a true sense of connectedness and empathy toward her, her daughter, and my daughter too. So hopefully soon we can all get together and eat cake!
Plan a Girls Night Out or Women’s Weekend Getaway with your BFFs sometime soon!
Stacey Crew is an Organizing Expert, Author and Speaker who focuses on busy women. Her book, The Organized Mom, is due in 2009. You can visit Stacey at http://staceycrew.blogspot.com.
Do you have a long distance BFF you should reconnect with? Call a girlfriend and catch up.
Then make a commitment to talk more frequently. Like Stacey, you might rediscover a BFF who will be with you through all stages of life. Thanks Stacey!
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