Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are. Marianne Williamson
With a name like “Chasing Joy” you would think our newest Girlfriend Guru would talk only about happiness, right? Only mostly right.
Today, she shares with us the contrast of getting together with girlfriends on happy and sad occasions and how to make more room in our lives for the happy times.
I don’t usually like to talk about sad things; I am Chasing Joy after all. But sad things do happen. We can’t just pretend they are not sad. We have to acknowledge the sadness and then go back to Chasing Joy so that we don’t get stuck there.
Recently I had some sad news. Two of my girlfriends each lost a parent in the last two weeks. One lost her father, the other her mother. Very, very sad. As my heart ached for these friends I also had a different kind of thought. My thought was that I was glad that the last time I’d seen each of these two friends we were laughing and smiling. The last time I spent time with each of my girlfriends it was a pleasant occasion.
We often get so busy with our day to day lives work, school, children, husbands, parents, etc… that we miss so many opportunities to connect with our girlfriends for happy occasions, fun occasions, or sometimes no occasion at all. It is during sad times that we are reminded that life can move quickly. Busy weeks run into busy weekends into busy months and soon you’re saying “girl, has it been a year since we hung out.” Unless, of course some sad sad event stops you in your tracks and I’m sure you don’t want to get together for that. So, be sure to make time for one another. Pencil in some girlfriend time along with your meetings, play dates, family time, and networking events.
Now, if you are like me you don’t really need to do anything special to have fun with your girlfriends. Good company makes good times, right? But if you need some fun ideas to entice your gal pals away from their to-do lists and mommy duties here are a few:
- Go to dinner
- Meet for a long lunch during a slow work week
- Go to happy hour during a stressful week
- Have a standing brunch date a la Sex in the City
- Make a monthly mani-pedi date
- Hit the mall
- Take in a movie
On a budget:
- Have a potluck party
- Have the girls over for a movie night
- Have your girls bring over their favorite color of polish and have a DIY Spa party
- Set up a weekly or bi-weekly gym date
- Meet at Whole Foods, Trader Joe’s, or Wegmans for lunch and then grocery shop for fruit and veggies together
- Sign up for the same Zumba (or other less fun) fitness class
- If you live near each other, plan an after dinner walk a couple times a week
- Sign up to do a 5k walk or run together
Long distance girlfriends:
- Have a twitter party!!! (They’re not just for bloggers.)
- Have a Girls Night In where you all Netflix, DVR, or Redbox the same move and call in to chat and laugh together
- Plan for a yearly girlfriend get away
- Make birthday get- together a priority
There is no shortage of fun, happy excuses for girlfriends to get together. Don’t let life tie you up so much that you only spend time together during the sad times. Don’t miss out on the Joy of Girlfriends getting together.
What are some of your favorite things to do to experience the Joy of Girlfriend get togethers???
ARLETT HARTIE is the author of the blog Chasing Joy. Arlett’s writing focuses on her efforts to find happiness after a rough time in her life, and hold on to it through all of life’s ups and downs. She writes about all things related to joy, positivity, and gratitude. She is a daughter, sister, auntie, and Girlfriend.
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