One of our friends recently submitted the following ‘challenge’ she has with a friend and would like your girlfriend advice.
I love my girlfriend “Sandy.” We’ve been friends for years and celebrate holidays and birthdays together. My problem is that she gives me really strange, not-like-me gifts. She spends a lot of money sometimes on things that totally aren’t me. Like she gave me a sweater that looked like my mom would wear it (which I did end up re-gifting to her and felt incredibly guilty about!). She gives me decorations for my home which don’t really fit in my design style, etc.
I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I feel bad that she spends so much money on me and very rarely is it something that I would have even given a glance in a store. I also feel fake but like I have to pretend to be excited and appreciative of her gifts.
In addition, I don’t have money like she does, so I feel awkward giving her little gifts that I hope she likes too. How can I be honest with her and not hurt her feelings?
Help! I love her and appreciate how generous she is with me. And its hard to tell her after all the years of bad gifts! Do I just keep smiling and regifting? Or do I say something – and, if so, what?
Girlfriends, in this time of economic stress, I can feel her concern as well for this misuse of Sandy’s funds.
My recommendation would be to try to set a new tradition of giving each other events together – like dinners together, a trip, or just a day together. Spending time together would be a much more fun and memorable use of the money spent on gifts. And, even with a limited budget, there are great things you can do to spend time with your girlfriend that are free or affordable – like get fit and take walks together, go on a picnic and explore a state park, or take up a hobby together like knitting.
What’s your girlfriend advice?
(Check out the Girlfriendology / Games for Dames Girlfriend Gift Guide for great girlfriend gifts! Sorry, just had to throw that in!)
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